I planned to post about stress management today, but nothing inspirational was coming to me and I couldn’t find anything particularly interesting on the subject that I wanted to share with you. Fortunately, as I was looking for good information for a post about stress management, I visited An Associate’s Mind (on my blogroll) and saw a post entitled “Perfection is an Illusion, There is Only Process.” This caught my attention.
I tend toward perfectionism, and many of the people in my daily life are more perfectionistic (is that a word?) than I am. Since having a baby about a year and a half ago, my perfection attitude has slowly diminished as I realize — sometimes to my dismay and disappointment — that I cannot achieve the perfection that I once thought was possible. So I thought I would share this post with you. Keith Lee, the blogger at An Associate’s Mind, writes the following:
I noticed a post over at Bnet recently entitled “Perfectionism is a Disease.” It offers three tips to ward off Perfectionism:
1. Allow yourself to be wrong in front of others.
We learn by making mistakes. The only way we understand ourselves is to test our limits. If we don’t want anyone to know we make mistakes, which is how perfectionists tend to behave, we are actually hiding our true selves.
2. Be a hard worker rather than a perfectionist.
Smart people cut corners. The art of being a star performer is knowing which corners to cut. Focus on your goals, and be honest with yourself about whether your goals require perfectionism along the way. A lot of times perfectionism is a way to avoid focusing on goals. Real goals, after all, almost always require a little bit of luck and assistance along the way — factors the perfectionists tend to dismiss.
3. Spend your energy making yourself likable.
Tiziana Casciaro reports in the Harvard Business Review that people are not all that interested in you being super-good at your job. They care if they like you. And, Casciaro found that if someone does not like you, he or she will decide you’re incompetent whether you are or not.
Read the full post here.