Secrets of Adulthood from The Happiness Project

Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project and who blogs at The Happiness Project blog, has a list of “secrets” of adulthood that she shares in a post. Here are some of them:

Secrets of Adulthood

• Outer order contributes to inner calm.
• You manage what you measure.
• By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished.
• People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think.
• It’s nice to have plenty of money.
• Most decisions don’t require extensive research.
• Try not to let yourself get too hungry.
• If you can’t find something, clean up.
• Turning the computer on and off a few times often fixes a glitch.
• It’s okay to ask for help.
• You can choose what you do; you can’t choose what you LIKE to do.
• Happiness doesn’t always make you feel happy.
• What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
• You don’t have to be good at everything..
• It’s important to be nice to EVERYONE.
• You know as much as most people.
• Eat better, eat less, exercise more.
• What’s fun for other people may not be fun for you–and vice versa.
• If you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough.

Check out the rest here.

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The Years Are Short

In The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin outlines Four Splendid Truths about life and happiness. The third of these truths is “The days are long but the years are short.”

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This is so true. A friend of mine talked about a similar concept in relation to parenthood. She told me “never wish for the next phase.” A relative of mine used to do this. When his daughter was a little baby, he wished she were older and more able to move around because then she would be more fun. When she was a toddler, her wished she were a little older so that she could carry on a conversation because then she would be more interesting. This attitude continued, until now when his daughter is sixteen, he finally realizes that he has missed a lot of the fun and she is no longer interested because he never found her interesting.

We need to relish each stage of life, even the miserable ones, because they all pass, which also means time is passing.

You can see a short one-minute movie by Gretchen Rubin about her third Splendid Truth by clicking here.

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“Be Yourself, But Keep Your Inner Jerk in Check.”

As you already know, I just finished reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, and I loved it. Now I’ve been visiting her blog, also The Happiness Project, and have found more intriguing information to share with you.

She periodically conducts happiness interviews. One of my favorites is of Bob Sutton, author of The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t and Good Boss, Bad Boss: How to Be the Best… and Learn from the Worst. He also has a blog at Work Matters.

As Gretchen Rubin says in her introduction to the interview, work and happiness are closely related. Because I find this to be very true, I thought we could all benefit from Bob Sutton’s interview.

My favorite part of the interview is where he encourages being yourself, but to “keep your inner jerk in check.” This quote reminds me of the joke by Bill Cosby. Someone once told him that “cocaine enhances my personality.” His response? ”Yeah, but what if you’re an a-hole?!”

I hope you enjoy the interview as much as I did, and that you remember to be yourself — your BEST self.

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The Happiness Project

So I just read The Happiness Project, a great book by Gretchen Rubin. Over the course of a year, she focused on different aspects of her life to improve her happiness. Like many of us, she was inspired by people like Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love, and wanted to improve her life in the same way. But unlike Elizabeth Gilbert, Gretchen Rubin has a husband and two young daughters and couldn’t just move to India or Italy or Indonesia to find her happiness and rejuvenate her life. Instead, she decided to make all her improvements as part of her daily life.

This is something with which many of us can identify. Moving to Italy for a year sounds like a great idea – and indeed I’m sure it it. (Though I’d move to France, if I could!) But how many of us can actually make that happen in our lives right now. Thus, The Happiness Project!

Gretchen focused on things like being more patient with her family, overcoming her need to always “get a gold star” when she did something well, and writing a novel. She tried to remember to take the time to have fun and to de-clutter her apartment. Most importantly, her underlying mantra was “Be Gretchen”; not the Gretchen she thought she should be, but the authentic person that she actually is. And all while still being a great mom and wife, daughter and sister, and friend and author.

If you think you might be interested in starting your own “happiness project,” Gretchen has a toolkit with accompanying website where can develop your project and, hopefully, grow your happiness. Or you can start with the book.

Now that I’ve read the book, I think I might start with the toolkit to improve my own happiness.

If you are thinking about doing a happiness project, what would your top three “action items” be?

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Top 10 Caffeine-Related Health Problems

I love my coffee. No sweetener, just a little milk, so I can really taste and savor the flavor of the beans. Yummy! I do not want to cut all caffeine from my diet, and I certainly do not want to give up my coffee. Nevertheless, it is important to remember that too much caffeine is not good for us. And for some people who are particularly sensitive to it, caffeine is a no-no, even in low doses. Below are the top ten caffeine related health problems, as explained by the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and adapted from Caffeine Blues by Stephen Cherniske.

1. Cardiovascular Problems

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Caffeine increases your heart rate, elevates your blood pressure, and can contribute to the development of heart disease. Both decaf and regular coffee increase your cholesterol and homocysteine, the biochemical that science has linked to increased risk for heart attack. Caffeine is also linked to coronary vasospasms, the cause for 20% of all fatal heart attacks which kill otherwise perfectly healthy people.

2. Stress

Caffeine stimulates the excretion of stress hormones, which can produce increased levels of anxiety, irritability, muscular tension and pain, indigestion, insomnia, and decreased immunity. Increased levels of stress can keep you from making healthy responses to normal daily stress.

3. Emotional Disturbances

Anxiety and irritability are hallmark mood disturbances associated with caffeine consumption, but equally important is depression and attention disorders. Depression may occur as part of the let down after the stimulant effects of caffeine wear off. It may also appear during the recovery period after quitting caffeine while the brain’s chemistry is readjusted. Caffeine, rather than increasing mental activity, actually decreases blood flow to the brain by as much as 30% and negatively effects memory and mental performance.

4. Blood Sugar Swings

Diabetics and hypoglycemics should avoid caffeine. Caffeine stimulates a temporary surge in blood sugar followed by an overproduction of insulin causing a blood sugar crash within hours. This rollercoaster causes weight gain since insulin’s message to the body is to store excess sugar as fat.

5. Gastrointestinal Problems

Many people experience a burning sensation in their stomach after drinking coffee because coffee increases the secretion of hydrochloric acid leading to an increased risk for ulcers. Coffee, including decaf, reduces pressure on the valve between the esophagus and the stomach so that the highly acidic contents of the stomach pass up to the esophagus leading to heartburn and gastro-esophageal reflux disease. No wonder the best selling over-the-counter drugs are the so-called antacids.

6. Nutritional Deficiencies

Caffeine inhibits the absorption of some nutrients and causes the urinary excretion of calcium, magnesium, potassium, iron and trace minerals, and all essential elements necessary for good health.

7. Male Health Problems

Milton Krisiloff, M.D. has found that in the majority of cases, men can significantly reduce their risk for urinary and prostate problems by making dietary changes, which include eliminating coffee and caffeine.

8. Female Health Problems

Fibrocystic breast disease, PMS, osteoporosis, infertility problems, miscarriage, low birth weight infants, and menopausal problems such as hot flashes are all exacerbated by caffeine consumption. Women on birth control pills are particularly at risk since they have a decreased ability to detoxify caffeine.

9. Aging

Many people find in there forties that they can no longer tolerate the same level of caffeine consumption as they could in there 20’s and 30’s. Production of DHEA, melatonin, and other vital hormones decline and caffeine speeds up that downhill drop. Caffeine dehydrates the body and contributes to aging of skin and kidneys. It has been shown to inhibit DNA repair and slow the ability of the liver to detoxify foreign toxins.

10. Adrenal Exhaustion

Caffeine consumption leads to eventual adrenal exhaustion, which can leave you vulnerable to a variety of health disorders related to inflammation, autoimmunity, and fatigue.

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