In The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin outlines Four Splendid Truths about life and happiness. The third of these truths is “The days are long but the years are short.”
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This is so true. A friend of mine talked about a similar concept in relation to parenthood. She told me “never wish for the next phase.” A relative of mine used to do this. When his daughter was a little baby, he wished she were older and more able to move around because then she would be more fun. When she was a toddler, her wished she were a little older so that she could carry on a conversation because then she would be more interesting. This attitude continued, until now when his daughter is sixteen, he finally realizes that he has missed a lot of the fun and she is no longer interested because he never found her interesting.
We need to relish each stage of life, even the miserable ones, because they all pass, which also means time is passing.
You can see a short one-minute movie by Gretchen Rubin about her third Splendid Truth by clicking here.
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From Alex Shalman's Heroes of Healing
At Tony Robbins’ Change Your Life Now Blog, there’s a twenty minute video of Nobel prize winner Daniel Kahneman discussing happiness. It is well worth the time to listen. Mr. Kahneman discusses the two distinct parts of ourselves that determine whether we are happy or not. He posits that happiness can be discussed by asking if you are happy in your life or happy with your life when you think about it. In other words, you have two selves: the experiencing self that lives in the present and the remembering self that reflects on your experiences. And they don’t always agree. For example, if you have a great experience, your experiencing self will be happy during the experience, but if the last few moments of that experience are painful in some way, your remembering self will remember that pain and not be happy with the experience. And vice versa. It is a fascinating and thought-provoking discussion.
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