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A version of this post first appeared here at Attorney at Work.

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We know that free-play is important to the development of children. But it’s also really important in the life of an adult. You may think that you don’t need to play, that you don’t have time to play, but there are good reasons to incorporate play into your life in order to be successful in life and in work.

What is play?

Brené Brown, researcher and author of Daring Greatly, describes play as anything that makes us lose track of time and self-consciousness. In other words, something that you experience as fun! Researcher Stuart Brown, MD (who is not related to Brené Brown), describes play as time spent without purpose. Unfortunately, I agree with Brené Brown, when she responds to this idea with “this sounds like the definition of an anxiety attack. I feel behind if I’m not using every last moment to be productive, whether that means working, cleaning the house or taking my son to baseball practice.” Agreed. I mean, I barely have time to do all the purposeful things I need to do. Why would I waste time doing something that has no purpose!? Because play is important.

  1. The importance of play.

Play itself – meaning the activity in which you are engaging – need not have a purpose in the sense that it is not directly related to your productivity, not related to getting things done, and not related to achieving your financial or career goals. But it does have a purpose: creating the space in your mind where ideas can be born, perspective can improve, and the self is nurtured. In other words, play refreshes your mind and body, increases energy and prevents burnout, triggers creativity and innovation, and helps you see problems in new ways. But that’s not all.

  1. Play is directly related to your success.

Research shows that “playing” relieves stress by triggering the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. As we know, success at work is highly dependent upon the quality of your work, not just the quantity. And the quality of work is dependent upon your well-being. So, ultimately, play is vitally important to your success, in life and in work.

  1. Wanna come out and play?

Play is different for everyone. It should be something that you enjoy such that you lose track of time. It could be an organized sport, like basketball or tennis. Maybe it’s brain-games like chess, crossword puzzles, or Sudoku. It could be a creative endeavor like painting, drawing, or scrapbooking; or performing arts such as an improv or dance class. Or maybe it’s something that gets you moving but is more meditative, such as snorkeling, yoga, or hiking. The possibilities are endless.

  1. Incorporate playfulness into your work.

Your work is serious, but that doesn’t mean that you need to be serious all the time, even in the office. When you hit a “glitch” in a matter or project, take some time out to “play” to reset your mind and come back with a fresh perspective on problem-solving. A small basketball hoop could help, or an air-hockey table in an extra conference room. Ask a colleague to join you, as playing with colleagues encourages teamwork and builds comradery.

  1. But what if it’s been so long since you played that you can’t remember what you like to do for fun?

Never fear. Even if you haven’t engaged in an activity simply for the fun of it in a really long time, most likely there was a time in your past when you played. Think back to that time – maybe it was when you were a kid – and make a list of all the things you enjoyed back then. Which still sound appealing to you? Coloring? There are lots of great adult coloring books available. Playing pretend? Maybe try an acting class, or go see a play. Playing with your family pet? Perhaps volunteer at a local animal shelter. Photography? Pull that camera out and get out in the world and take some photos. Playing board games? Organize a monthly game night with friends. LEGOs? There are some seriously awesome LEGO sets available. Get creative. Try something you liked in the past, or try something new.

In the words of George Bernard Shaw, “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” When was the last time you played? No matter how long ago, make today the next time you play!

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I saw a quote today on the pages of my Gratitude Journal. (As an aside, I really recommend a gratitude journal to help you increase your gratitude for the good things in life, especially in light of not-so-good experiences that we all inevitably have.) I like the quote, so I’m sharing with you.

“Gratitude among friends is like credit among tradesmen: it keeps business up, and maintains commerce. And we pay not because it is just to discharge our debts, but that we might the more easily find lenders on another occasion.”

–Francois, Duc de la Rochefoucauld (1613-1680), French writer, moralist

I am grateful for my friends and try to tell them. For whom are you grateful?

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My dad sent me a quote in a note in the mail. It read “Time that you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.” I like that. I often,have a hars time taking the time to do things that aren’t “productive,” like watching a movie. Two hours of time, I think. What else could I do with that time. But my dad makea a great point: it’s okay to take time to do things simply because we enjoy them.

What will you do with your time today?

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Quote of the Day

Fall Seven Times, Stand Up Eight.

– Japanese Proverb

My daughter, who is 11 months old, lives by this proverb as she has been learning to walk. It is inspiring to watch her determination and perseverance. And it is paying off — she is now walking around like a toddler. Go Sarah!

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Quote of the Day

If you are going through hell, keep going.

-Winston Churchill

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Quote of the Day

Never let life’s hardships disturb you … no one can avoid problems, not even saints or sages.
– Nichiren Daishonen

Have a good weekend!

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I was thinking about the direction from flight attendants about oxygen masks in an emergency. They always say something like:

In the event of an emergency, an oxygen mask will drop from the panel above your head. Put on your oxygen mask first, then help others around you to put on their oxygen masks.

The order of taking care is apparently very important during an in-flight emergency. It makes sense: if you don’t have any oxygen, you certainly can’t help someone else stay alive.

I think this instruction is equally important in every day life. If you don’t take care of yourself, then you can’t take care of others. So many of us neglect our own needs, as if we are martyrs for our spouse, children, friends, and co-workers. But we do a dis-service not only to ourselves, but to all those other people that we care about.

Remember that you are an important person in your own life, as well as in the lives of other people, and you deserve to be taken care of, just like they do.

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“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.”

–Benjamin Franklin, American author, statesman and inventor

The only way to avoid failure is to stop trying. Without trying, you cannot grow. What would you do if you did not fear failure? Then do it.

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Forget and forgive — yourself

“Forget and forgive. This is not difficult, when properly understood. It means you are to forget inconvenient duties, and forgive yourself for forgetting. In time, by rigid practice and stern determination, it comes easy.” – Mark Twain


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Happiness versus Pleasure

In The Art of Happiness, the Dalai Lama discusses the difference between happiness and pleasure:

“True happiness relates more to the mind and heart. Happiness that depends mainly on physical pleasure is unstable; one day it’s there, the next day it may not be.”

I like this idea and think it is relevant to our relationship with food. So many of us try to fill some emptiness in our lives with something pleasurable, and that something is often food, mostly sweet, high calorie food. It makes us feel better because it is pleasurable to smell the baking brownie and savor its chocolate-y goodness. But it doesn’t make us happy.

In fact, it makes us very unhappy as we then feel the guilt of not sticking to our diets and see the detrimental effect on our bodies that too many indulgences cause. If you are self-medicating with food, stop and think for a minute. When you reach for that dessert, what are you really reaching for? Are you hungry or are you just trying to feel pleasure? If you are only seeking pleasure, which is a physical sensation, then do something physical instead. Exercise to release endorphins. Snuggle your kids or dog or cat. Hug your spouse or friend. Take a hot bath. The options are endless.


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